Have you tried 'advanced movements' in the settings/view menu. I am the only one with the original TMD file as the ones shipped with helicopters are encrypted so no need to go looking for one. To be honest, when you get used to looking at the Lynx panels it fails to become an issue, for gauges we just check they are in the green, for switches you just know where they should be, forward in most cases, for MI's wrong ones just stick out like a sore thumb, for the fuel gauge when the winky wanky lights come on your getting too low.
Throttle Levers...it's not possible to map the throttles for these reasons.
1. I actually use 3 throttles..... 2 ECL's and the Speed Select Lever which effectively moves both ECL outputs in the sim, to go from 100% to 107%.
2. Helicopters use HelicopterThrottle which is not the same as the standard aircraft throttle so I don't think it could be bound.
VR...yes it's difficult to move things in the throttle quadrant, there is a lot happening and VR seems to have a cut off point as you get closer to the viewpoint where selection becomes an issue, I assume it's something similar to objects appearing to be smaller, switches and knobs need to be 30% bigger to look the same. I'm not happy also with the selection issue but I think its just a fact of life we have to live with. As I said in the manual, just lean towards the drivers door to make the distance bigger